Jourdan Anderson

PH Anderson Requests Your Friendship

What is so extraordinary about this letter is the idea that  PH Anderson would actually have the nerve to send a letter like this in the first place. It is as if, PH had seen Jourdan’s picture under the “People You May  Know “ banner on facebook. Thought, huh, wonder if I could entice Jourdan back around?  Like most people that have been able to separate themselves from toxic relationships (I use this term loosely, as Mr. Jourdan Anderson was not afforded the choice to leave at will), the abuser doesn’t get that their actions were ever harmful. They live in the delusion that, Oh, good ol’ so-and-so, won’t they be happy to hear from me?”

Friendship requested.

In this case, and much to the chagrin, I am sure, of PH Anderson, Jourdan, was very polite, and certainly, if the time space continuum wasn’t an obstacle, I’d say that he had perfected Jackie Kennedy’s idea of the polite brush-off. Maybe she was taught this technique from someone else. Who knows? Point is, when we live and think as rhetors, the irrational and seemingly odd behaviors of others  are exposed for what they really are- which is to say that the motives that drive our interactions speak to who we are as people.  PH, no longer in  a power relationship with Jourdan, thinks that by approaching him as an equal, they can pick up where they left off.  PH apparently hasn’t been approved as one of Jourdan’s ‘friends’ on facebook, and therefore missed Jourdan’s status update: Jourdan Anderson’s “Ph” is fine without Mr. Anderson!

I jest, but in terms of communicative tools, and the means through which we express ourselves hasn’t changed all that much, although the way we go about doing it, has changed dramatically. PH serves as that sort of person in everyone’s life that challenges us, and hurts us and then tells us it’s for our own good. This letter, shows that when they ‘good’ has been achieved, and the challenges have produced a strength that surpasses anything the oppressor can dish out- the party is over, and the rejection of  association,  can begin.

 Request: denied!